Can the Wrong Person Turn into the Right One?

by Alexandra Copeland

To borrow a term from back in the day, dating in today’s game is ‘a trip and a half!’ The expectations we place on one another is off the Richter scale of reality, and because of it there are a lot of hurt feelings and disappointment out there. The crazy thing is that a lot of folks are not becoming wiser from experience but get right back in the game without changing anything in their mindsets or approaches. They do the same things but expect different results each time. Not only is this the definition of insanity, it’s the recipe for stagnation on so many fronts. There’s no other activity that is more meaningful to our fulfillment in life than finding a person that values us and equals our capacity to love. We can skimp on a lot of things, but this one…never.

One of the biggest mistakes we make is trying to take the spiritual component out of this area of our lives. We want God’s help when we’re dealing with sickness, disease, loss or finances, but when it comes to romance, many of us tell the Father, “I got this!” That can’t be a winning strategy because Heavenly Father came up with this whole relationship business in the first place. He has a specific purpose for it, and although we don’t always bear this in mind when we’re looking to get booed up, wisdom dictates that we rethink things.

John 1:2 tells us that in the beginning, Jesus Christ was there with God, and everything was made through Christ, and without him, nothing was made; because Christ is the life and the light of humanity. Genesis 1:26 tells us that we’re made in God’s image. He took from Himself and wove His essence into us. God made us through Jesus Christ, and this gives us the greatest information we will ever need to know about how God intended us to function. We’re to function like His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, and this means love is our chief operating system.

 
There’s some stuff about us humans that’s inexplicable. There are reflexes and responses that come standard with our model; meaning our bodies sometimes engage actions before our brains know about it. God has placed this in our makeup, and these actions sometimes take us by surprise, but it should solidify for us the truth that God has taken care of every detail of our existence, and He has left nothing to chance.

Heavenly Father placed destiny within our DNA and fulfilling it will always be the deciding factor of a life lived well or poorly. He has given us a fail proof roadmap to living our lives with purpose. Nothing that you and I need to know about fulfilling our purpose within God's Will is left out of His Word. He tells us in 2Peter 1:3 that EVERYTHING pertaining to life and Godliness is in the Bible.

Every subject is addressed with wisdom and doles out God's direction, correction, and instruction. So you and I can know with a great degree of confidence that God has all the bases covered when it comes to life. We should also know that He has a purpose for the relationships we have in life. He cares about our relationships, and He knows the marital partner that will aid our destinies within His will and plan the most. This is the person we should be praying to come across.

Proverbs 14:12, 16:25 tells us that there’s a path before each of us that seems right, but it ends in death. It’s a really, really, really good idea to stay away from the path that seems right, because it won’t be right for us. This goes for people too. Can the wrong person turn into the right one? Not if we are trusting the Will and Plan that God has for our lives. If we are, we must be careful not to fall for any tricks. The wrong person can seem right, check off many of the boxes on our list, but if they’re not the person God has for us, we can’t make them right no matter how hard we try. They’ll cause us to spin our wheels, waste valuable time, and lose precious momentum and stamina on our journeys.

All of us should want what God has for us, and this means we gotta talk with Him on the regular. We’ve got to let Jesus take the wheel and steer us towards infinite and destined possibilities. Our destiny within the Will of God is more powerful than anything you and I can produce in the earth. Something inexplicable is activated when we’re on its path. We shouldn’t try to fit a square peg in a round hole. Have faith that everything you need in order to meet that special someone is already in you. God put it there, and He never makes a mistake. Pray for His guidance. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.